Self regulation is basically the ability to calm yourself down and to recognise when you need to.
My daughter did a 6 week self regulation course in late 2014 through her speech therapist. It was conducted with a group of 4 girls around her age and they learned different techniques each week. It gave her a small insight but it helped me greatly in knowing what I could be doing as her mum to help encourage this.
Her emotional age is between 4-6 years of age (she is 9 years old.) My neurotypical son is 5 years old and the techniques I use with her are also fun for him too.
While on Pinterest (a.k.a the bible) I stumbled across an amazing blog Teach Mama which had a brilliant FREE printable for emotion activities based on the movie Inside Out. I quickly printed the cards out and I wrote on the back of each card some strategies for each emotion tailored to my daughter specifically. for example a strategy for Anger was to take 5 deep breaths, count backwards from 10, sip on some cool water, punch her punching bag, eat some crunch foods. I also added a new emotion jealousy as that is something she really struggles with. I laminated a set for a key-ring for her and I also made a set to play memory games etc.
If you haven't watched the movie Inside out yet, I strongly recommend it. Make sure you watch it with them so you can look for talking points for later on.
Talk to your kids about their different levels of emotions. Draw a scale or thermometer and write down with them or draw if they can not read how they look or behave when they are 'cool' or 'calm' then work your way up the scale/temperatures. Mark on the scale where they think they need to implement their calming techniques.
We are no strangers to calming techniques in this household. Some that I would suggest are:
- crunch foods
- jumping on a trampoline
- jumping into a crash-mat
- meditation/calm music
- a shower
- ear muffs or eye mask
- talking it out
For a small calming boost I have been using Doterra lavender oils on her pillow and around the house too.